The question I’ve gotten asked since I’ve been pregnant with a toddler and now have 2 kids, is the same one I continue to ask other moms as well. How do you do it? I never really get a straightforward answer and I am unable to give one. Half the time I think I tell people, do I look like I’m doing it? Because I feel like I am half-dressed, half-showered, and running around like a crazy person thankful each day ends with full, somewhat sleepy, and healthy kids that are still alive. Two kids is by far the hardest thing I have ever done, and I actually thought being pregnant with a
crazy screaming lively toddler was hard. Part of it is the super, multitasking, marathon, prancer you have to become, but the other part is letting go of the you that you once were. I’ve read articles justifying that it’s hard to do that, love who you are now, etc etc. But it truly is something to deal with. I do miss all the time I had, my freedom to just go into a store alone, or to do something that actually takes 5 min instead of 3 hours. I still hold onto part of the old me as I transition to the new me… and I like to think it’s about adding a few additions, like limbs. I still want to have my likes, hobbies (if I ever have a free second again), and my own little space in the world, and not get lost. And maybe it’s the ability to try to just balance even more. I will literally run around trying to simultaneously cook dinner (which I loathe, can I just have a chef), change 2 diapers, singing along to Mickey Mouse clubhouse to avoid tantrums, nurse a baby while standing and change a t-shirt soaked in many things (seriously, I have actually done this), yell at a dog to stop barking at her reflection, and put out an instagram post to promote my blog, while dreaming, planning, and adding to my mental to-do list. I think I would look like a lunatic to a kidless person or the 22 year old me. But this is the new person, sprinkled with some old me in there. This results in sitting here at naptime with both kids napping, and writing this blog post, thinking… wait, this is all I’m doing at the moment? I feel so unchallenged.
So the question remains unanswered specifically, yet answered in a simple sentence… We just do.